I hate for it to seem like I am ganging up on the single moms but hey, if I don’t tell you then who the hell will? This message is for the single mothers who have a busy dating life. Now there is nothing wrong with you dating as often as you like. Being a mother does not mean that you forgo your romantic life. I do have a problem with women who date men and then allow them to move into their home at a fast pace.

It especially bothers me when I see that the mother has little girls. Why? Because I have noticed a disturbing pattern. Little girls grow up seeing their mother swap out man like underwear and then they grow into women who do the same damn thing. Searching and searching, but not clear what they are looking for. These young women then think it is acceptable to have boyfriends living in their homes with their children because this is what they saw growing up.

The pattern continues. Single moms, if your children see you bringing home different men on a regular basis they will copy this behavior. I am a living witness to this. I have family members who committed the exact act and their daughters are now following in those same footsteps. What is my point? Simple. Date. Date as often as you like. But send the man home. Not every boyfriend needs to be a live in boyfriend. If he is serious, he can prove it over time instead of setting up shop too soon.

Now if you are child free and want that then hey, you are only affecting yourself. However, once you pop out a child it is no longer all about your desires. I implore you to consider your children, especially your daughters, when swapping men that you date in and out of your homes. It can make them believe that this is acceptable behavior, weaken their sense of stability, and teach them that a woman cannot be happy unless she has a man under her.